I am a WORKING mom
Everyday I come across many articles/blogs about Stay at Home Moms.. Some written by the moms themselves while the others written by their husbands. All such articles leave me wondering that why no article on Working Moms. And then I realize that we, the working moms, have no time to write any such article and to tell everyone how easy or difficult our lives are...So, today I decided to use my Me time from Home to office to tell everybody my side of the story.. A working mom’s story...
My daughter is 3 years now and the most difficult time for me in these last 3 years was when my daughter was 4 months and I had to join back office. It was more painful to leave the baby at home than it was to deliver the baby. I had 2 options at that point of time - to quit the job and enjoy motherhood or to pursue my dream of a career woman and enjoy motherhood. I opted for the latter. When my husband and I decided to start the family we were very well aware of our hectic office schedules and the kind of commitments required toward our careers. And it was our conscious decision that we would start the family and neither of us would give up on our respective careers. Yes, this thought never crossed our minds that it was only me who should be quitting the job. I left my daughter with my in laws and the help on the first day of resuming work..came back to see her during lunch hours, only to vanish again until my work day was over. This continued to be my routine for the following year and a half
Having spent a full day at work, discharging my duties and being mentally and physically occupied for nearly 14 hours, I return home to fulfill my duties as a mom.I never crib that my back is hurting after sitting for nearly 18 -20 hours in a day or that I get only 3-4 hrs of sleep in a day because it was my decision of bringing the baby in this world and to continue with my office.
I never justify myself to people who think that I go to office so that I can escape my responsibilities as a mom. In last 3 years I have not taken coffee breaks with my colleagues or away from my workstation, I am always the first one to leave the office parties and I try to speed up my work in all the offsite trips so that I can return home to my baby early. I don’t have any weekends or holidays in my schedule now. All such breaks from office mean that I am at the service of my daughter and I love doing every bit of my job as a mom.
My daughter now goes to school and I wake up at the same time in the morning as any other mom in this world, I prepare her lunch box and drop her to school. My daughter now understands that her mumma goes to office every day and she keeps all her stories from school ready for me when I reach home in the evening. We both ask each other about the day in school and office. I hear the thrill in her voice when she tells her friends that her mumma goes to office. I don’t repent missing my daughter’s first walk or teeth because I never missed these precious moments. I was always there for her during all her milestones and she was there to celebrate with me when I got the biggest promotion so far in my career within 8 months of her birth.
For me, my career is not a platform to prove my identity or to earn money. It’s my dream. I was nearly 10 years old when I dreamt of being a career woman. My parents nurtured this dream with me for next 13 years and my Stay at Home Mom invested all her time, love and energy in building my career. I cannot let down the hard work of my parents and the pride in their eyes by quitting my career. They brought me up as a strong girl and I would like to pass on the same strength to my daughter. . I never want to give this feeling to my precious little one that I had to leave my career for her. She never told me to bring her in this world and I know she would never tell me to quit my job. It is my decision and I am proud of it.
I believe that women are the strongest creation of God and the almighty has given us the power of balancing. We balance between our kids and jobs and we bring balance even to the lives of those around us. We are multitaskers and I can say that whether we are stay at home moms or Working Moms, we are doing our jobs to the best of our abilities and should be proud of this accomplishment.
Everyday I come across many articles/blogs about Stay at Home Moms.. Some written by the moms themselves while the others written by their husbands. All such articles leave me wondering that why no article on Working Moms. And then I realize that we, the working moms, have no time to write any such article and to tell everyone how easy or difficult our lives are...So, today I decided to use my Me time from Home to office to tell everybody my side of the story.. A working mom’s story...
My daughter is 3 years now and the most difficult time for me in these last 3 years was when my daughter was 4 months and I had to join back office. It was more painful to leave the baby at home than it was to deliver the baby. I had 2 options at that point of time - to quit the job and enjoy motherhood or to pursue my dream of a career woman and enjoy motherhood. I opted for the latter. When my husband and I decided to start the family we were very well aware of our hectic office schedules and the kind of commitments required toward our careers. And it was our conscious decision that we would start the family and neither of us would give up on our respective careers. Yes, this thought never crossed our minds that it was only me who should be quitting the job. I left my daughter with my in laws and the help on the first day of resuming work..came back to see her during lunch hours, only to vanish again until my work day was over. This continued to be my routine for the following year and a half
Having spent a full day at work, discharging my duties and being mentally and physically occupied for nearly 14 hours, I return home to fulfill my duties as a mom.I never crib that my back is hurting after sitting for nearly 18 -20 hours in a day or that I get only 3-4 hrs of sleep in a day because it was my decision of bringing the baby in this world and to continue with my office.
I never justify myself to people who think that I go to office so that I can escape my responsibilities as a mom. In last 3 years I have not taken coffee breaks with my colleagues or away from my workstation, I am always the first one to leave the office parties and I try to speed up my work in all the offsite trips so that I can return home to my baby early. I don’t have any weekends or holidays in my schedule now. All such breaks from office mean that I am at the service of my daughter and I love doing every bit of my job as a mom.
My daughter now goes to school and I wake up at the same time in the morning as any other mom in this world, I prepare her lunch box and drop her to school. My daughter now understands that her mumma goes to office every day and she keeps all her stories from school ready for me when I reach home in the evening. We both ask each other about the day in school and office. I hear the thrill in her voice when she tells her friends that her mumma goes to office. I don’t repent missing my daughter’s first walk or teeth because I never missed these precious moments. I was always there for her during all her milestones and she was there to celebrate with me when I got the biggest promotion so far in my career within 8 months of her birth.
For me, my career is not a platform to prove my identity or to earn money. It’s my dream. I was nearly 10 years old when I dreamt of being a career woman. My parents nurtured this dream with me for next 13 years and my Stay at Home Mom invested all her time, love and energy in building my career. I cannot let down the hard work of my parents and the pride in their eyes by quitting my career. They brought me up as a strong girl and I would like to pass on the same strength to my daughter. . I never want to give this feeling to my precious little one that I had to leave my career for her. She never told me to bring her in this world and I know she would never tell me to quit my job. It is my decision and I am proud of it.
I believe that women are the strongest creation of God and the almighty has given us the power of balancing. We balance between our kids and jobs and we bring balance even to the lives of those around us. We are multitaskers and I can say that whether we are stay at home moms or Working Moms, we are doing our jobs to the best of our abilities and should be proud of this accomplishment.
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